IAmBrassman wrote:
Did I count right... 6 relationships / dating strings in the last year or so?? 
  
Actually, 6 since July of this year.

Kim - Met online (eharmony).  Had a 3 date-3 week relationship in July starting right before my divorce was final.  Made it to sloppy second base on the 1st date.  Third base by the 3rd date.  We both moved too fast and that killed the relationship.

Tami - Met her online (Zoosk).  2 and a half months; mostly from a distance due to her living more than an hour away.  She said she was separated and days away from Dissolution filing.  Turned out not to be true.  Before I knew that though we were very involved.  She used the word "love" early on and I got sucked in.  The relationship with her is what hurt me the most as I knew I shouldn't have been involved plus she kept getting back together with her husband while promising me we would be together.  The strain of her telling me she loved me but not being with me made me anxious and insecure; me needing frequent reminders that she loved me.  She still isn't divorced but tells me she loves me.

Sherri - Met online (Zoosk) but turned out to be a coworker in a different office.  One date which went well but I told her I was still interested in Tami.  Currently Sherri and I are "friends".

Cathy - Met online (Match).  Was only intended to be the one date it was as she is just getting back on the dating scene since her divorce last year.  I was her first date.

Roseanne - Met online (Match).  Had a great dinner date and then a hiking date.  On that date she told me she wasn't interested in dating anyone, including me.  I ended up back with Tami for more online stress.

Holly - Reconnected on FaceBook after 32 years.  Had two wonderful dates.  Everything was as it should be; comfortable, relaxed, real, special.  Definitely clicked.

There were two other women (Amy and Tina) who I was supposed to meet but never happened.  Amy could never commit to a day/time and Tina mysteriously dissappeared from Match.

Some people might say I've done well and should feel confident but it isn't about quantity; it is about quality.  If Holly doesn't resurface I'm going to take a break for awhile and get my head back on straight.


Thank you B-man and all for your advice and support.  Let's go back to this topic being about weight loss. 


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